It's true that women gained a lot of rights the past few centuries. It really puts our life in our hands, makes and the creators of our own destiny. But do you like every aspect of the emancipation? Or would you prefer some decision about our lifes be made by others? Reply girls and let me know.

I know that woman and abusive relationships have been talked pretty much to death, but here I go doing some talking myself.
My problem has always been that I couldn't get the understanding down about how a woman, (usually a pretty smart one, too), could let herself continue to let a man beat and abuse her.
But you know what? I have recently realized that this smug all knowing idiot has been living in her own abusive relationship for over 40 years!!
You see, I figured that because he never tried to hit me again after first trying it in the very beginning of our marrige, that he was not an abusive husband. Wrong.
His abuse has always been of the verbal/emotional kind and I did not want to admit that it was every bit as abusive as the physical kind.
I grew up with a very physical and emotionally abusive father and an unconcerned mother and swore I would never let another man hit me again. I lived up to that when my husband did try to hit me. I hit back.
And so it stopped.
But over the years I would take my children and leave at different intervals without ever admitting that it was because of him, just that I seemed to need some time away. But not why I needed that time away.
Later on, after my children had grown I found out that he had physically abused them. Not sexually but beatings.
Do you think that that stopped me from taking him back? No.
Recently, I have begun to really think about my relationship and I am ashamed over my ongoing stupidy. Now I have really gotten myself into a mess. I am no longer able to leave due to my inability to work and living on disability. And now he is truly unbearable.
What does one do now?